A little help with the struggle

Our culture is a difficult one for men to try to keep their hearts and minds pure.  Everywhere you look, men can be tempted by sexual images and descriptions of women. Television, movies, the internet… Everywhere. 

One Christian website that I often visit has pictures in each story.  They appear to be stock photos that you can buy off the internet or in packages of thousands of topics.  The website just picks one or two that matchwhatever the topic is of the article. 

What’s frustrating is that all of the women are thin, beautiful and attractive.  The men, likewise are athletic and handsome.  There are no fat people, odd looking people, people with hair out of place or with no hair.  Just like EVERY man and woman I know.  Right.

It’s nothing new, really. Look at David of the Old Testament.  He was tempted by the view of a beautiful woman (Bathsheba) and it cost him, her and her husband dearly.  The Ten Commandments tell us not to commit adultery.  Jesus then tells us that if we look at a woman with lust, we have committed adultery. It’s not easy being a man in this culture.

And yet, we as men are wired to appreciate the beauty of God’s creation in women.  The struggle is in how to handle it.

A very successful program that helps men with this issue is Every Man’s Battle.   Their website, seminars and books provide insight and a plan that can help sort out how to deal with this over saturation of sexual imagery in our culture.  The book, Every Man’s Battle, by Stephen Arterburn and Fred Stoeker is a best seller.

In addition to the original Every Man’s Battle book, there are several others in the series dealing with issues for young men, women, young women, marriage, singles, and dealing with an affair. 

So, there is some really good stuff out there available for helping us men in the battle of sexual temptation. Take advantage of it.

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New HFN Website Coming Soon

The Homeschool Father’s Network will soon post our new website.  As a part of the growth of the network, our new website will provide a comprehensive location for fathers to find answers about issues related to their role as a homeschooling father.

This blog will continue, as a part of the new website, offering thoughts and tidbits of useful information.  The website will take the concept from tidbits to details in an effort to provide homeschooled students with the best equipped fathers possible.

Watch over the next few weeks as the new website goes live.


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Financial Snapshot: Insurance Review

Something that is easy to do, but also easy to forget is to review your insurance coverage.  Home, life, auto, business, health, etc. Schedule a review with your agent to ensure that you have the proper coverage for your current situation.  No need to pay for more than you need, but you also don’t want to be under-covered. As a part of the process, be sure to update the beneficiaries on your life insurance plans if needed.

I try to review coverage every six months or so.  I schedule it in Outlook and make it a part of my annual financial calendar. Sometimes, nothing needs to be changed, but looking it over a couple of times a year ensures that I am current.

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Good Article on Homeschool Perseverance

Crosswalk.com has a good section on Homeschooling. This article is one that as husbands and fathers, it is good to be reminded of some of the challenges faced in leading the education of our children.




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Lifelong Learning

In sorting through many of my grandparents’ belongings (they passed away in the last 2 years at 94 and 97 years old), I found receipts from 1937 that showed my Grandfather had “attended” a correspondence school. 

Due to the need to support his family during the Great Depression, he was not able to go to college. Then, WWII started and his dream of college forever remained just a dream.  But he didn’t let that stop his desire to learn.

Knowing there was much that he didn’t know, he undertook a course of study via correspondence to gain knowledge that he would never had otherwise been able to have. It helped him go from an assistant payroll clerk at the Mobil refinery in town to the Supervisor of the lab.

In the early 1940’s he and my grandmother moved to the farm where my children and I now live.  When asked by my grandmother’s father “why in the world would you move out there, you don’t know anything about farming?”, my Grandfather replied that he would learn.

An so he and Grandma did. Over the next 50 years, they learned and farmed and raised a family. His education was a lifelong example for anyone willing to look at it.

An example of learning is one of the greatest gifts you can give your children.  With homeschooling, we have an opportunity to teach our children early on that learning never ends.  Depending upon your school schedule, your family may have a start and end time for “school”.  Others may use the entire day and every event throughout it to teach and learn. Then, there are variances in between the two.

Regardless of how you homeschool, an example of parents – particularly fathers – continuing to learn is critical to the lifelong success of your children. Below are some ideas to consider to help instill this perspective in your family:

Talk about it – at the dinner table don’t just ask the kids what they learned in school today.  Tell them something that you learned today as well.

Demonstrate it – take a class at the local community college or your Church. Tell your kids what you are doing and why.

Support it – Scouts, sports, music lessons and other activities all can serve as a foundation for teaching kids. Remind your children that they didn’t just go camping, but they learned skills that teach leadership and self-motivation.

I was blessed in having examples of continued learning in my family and am working to pass that along to my children.  I hope you will do the same.

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SI: This one isn’t about sports

A good blog post at Fathers52.com, regarding the Sports Illustrated Swimsuit Issue:


Several of my female friends have already “taken care of the problem” for their husbands and sons, at the same time keeping the garbage men employed.

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Today is the day. The Giants and the Patriots. Or the Patriots and the Giants. Either way, the big game is upon us.

I am not much of a fan of pro football and probably won’t watch the game. Even the celebrated commercials won’t pull me in.  I don’t know anyone who is having a party, or at least they didn’t invite me if they are.  All of which is fine.

What I find interesting about the Superbowl, however, is the amount of effort that ordinary Americans put into it.  The parties, the… well, everything.  It’s a cultural spectacle.

It got me thinking about how much time we as fathers put into celebrating our families.  When was the last time you had a blowout party for your family?  A birthday?  New Year’s?

Me neither. At least not like people celebrate the Superbowl.  So, what stopping us?

Why not take some time this year to celebrate your family?  Have a big party, like the Superbowl.  And let us know how it goes.


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